WHAT could she see in that skanky ball-bag Blake if she was sober?It's all part of the same pattern of compulsive, self destructive behavior - drugs, Blake, etc. She may well have a death wish since she seems to be slowly but methodically killing herself. A good question might be "is this intentional on some level?" Since the behavior pattern is consistent, she may well know what she's doing. Remember that according to Blake, she asked him for the drugs - and may then be more responsible for her predicament then he is (she also manages to get regularly photographed in a sorry state too, though other hi profile celebs have hidden addictions for years: Heather Locklear and Heath Ledger). If half of what Blakie says is true, then he may be on a tragic love trip himself. Not unusual in self destructive types. Blakie may be far more likely to buy the farm than Winehouse actually - perhaps suicide with a "Sorry Amy, but now they know how much I love you" note.
"Playing dumb" is merely a way many people use to avoid being held accountable for their actions. Children do it all the time, and know that if they didn't mean it then they can go on setting fire to the living room curtains. Adults do it too: like the woman who feels she can go on destroying lives if it's in the name of love - Jolie/Sienna Miller??; or the man who treats women like dirt because "they're all on the make and none of them can be trusted" - Steve Tyler's latest comment was "Never marry and lie till you die". "If you're gonna act dumb then you'll be treated like that" or "If you're gonna act like a child we'll treat you like one" is one common response/antithesis. Though a person may act dumb/childish to evade the consequence of irresponsible acting out their pride won't let them be regarded as genuinely 'retarded'; nor does their willfulness allow them to be treated like a child, & have their freedom curbed. They wanna do what they want, they just don't want to be accountable. Sometimes, with some people, you have to call their bluff on the "I didn't know any better" routine. Daddy might have to take her TBird away, as the old song says.
Lindsay Lohan and Britney Spears could fit neatly into this as well as most celebs - who are playing some sort of 'game' or another. For instance the celebrity who pretends to hate attention, but secretly wants it and enjoys complaining about it (For instance the late Princess Diana was sometimes known to seek the paparazzi out when they weren't around). They have the money to fly off and be invisible when ever they want (celebs who get sick of the spotlight some how manage to find their way out, they just stop making movies or whatever), but that's not as much fun as being 'a victim of the spotlight'. There by the celebs addictions, break downs, and failed relationships become our fault, and part of the unreasonable price of fame which we have imposed on them. So they get 'all that' and pity too.
Generally celebs seem to be a very insincere and phony lot. Then again you would have to be to seek validation from millions of anonymous strangers.
"Playing dumb" is merely a way many people use to avoid being held accountable for their actions. Children do it all the time, and know that if they didn't mean it then they can go on setting fire to the living room curtains. Adults do it too: like the woman who feels she can go on destroying lives if it's in the name of love - Jolie/Sienna Miller??; or the man who treats women like dirt because "they're all on the make and none of them can be trusted" - Steve Tyler's latest comment was "Never marry and lie till you die". "If you're gonna act dumb then you'll be treated like that" or "If you're gonna act like a child we'll treat you like one" is one common response/antithesis. Though a person may act dumb/childish to evade the consequence of irresponsible acting out their pride won't let them be regarded as genuinely 'retarded'; nor does their willfulness allow them to be treated like a child, & have their freedom curbed. They wanna do what they want, they just don't want to be accountable. Sometimes, with some people, you have to call their bluff on the "I didn't know any better" routine. Daddy might have to take her TBird away, as the old song says.
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| Eric Berne - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Transactional analysis Main article: Transactional analysis Berne mapped interpersonal relationships to three ego-states of the individuals involved: the Parent, Adult, and Child state. He then investigated communications between individuals based on the current state of each. These interpersonal interactions he called transactions; certain patterns of transactions which popped up repeatedly in everyday life he called games. His seminar group from the 1950s developed the term transactional analysis (TA) to describe therapies based on his work. By 1964, this expanded into the International Transactional Analysis Association. While still largely ignored by the psychoanalytic community, many therapists have put his ideas in practice. In the early 1960s he published both technical and popular accounts of his conclusions. His Structures and Dynamics of Organizations and Groups in 1963 examined the same analysis in a broader context than one-on-one interaction. In 1964 Berne published Games People Play which became an enormous bestseller and made Berne famous. The book presented clear everyday examples of the way in which human beings get caught up in the games they play, giving the games titles such as "Now I've got you you son of a bitch." Some of his terminology became a part of everyday vocabulary. [edit]Transactional analysis of drinking In Berne's explanation of transactions, when the transaction is a zero-sum game, e.g. one must win at the other's expense, the person who benefits from a transaction (wins the game) is referred to as White, and the victim is referred to as Black. The transactional object of the drinking, for example, aside from the personal pleasure it brings, could be seen as being to set up a situation where the Child can be severely scolded not only by the internal parent but by any parental figures in the immediate environment who are interested enough to oblige. It is the same in the game Schlemiel: the messmaking, which attracts the most attention, is merely a pleasure-giving way for White to led up to the crux, which is obtaining forgiveness by Black. There are a variety of organizations involved in 'Alcoholic’, some of them national or even international in scope, others local. Many of them publish rules for the game. Nearly all of them explain how to play the role of Alcoholic: take a drink before breakfast, spend money allotted for other purposes, etc. They also explain the function of the Rescuer. Alcoholics Anonymous, for example, continues playing the actual game but concentrates on inducing the Alcoholic to take the role of Rescuer. Former Alcoholics are preferred because they know how the game goes, and hence are better qualified to play the supporting role than people who have never played before. Cases have been reported of a chapter of A.A. running out of Alcoholics to work on; whereupon the members resumed drinking, since there was no other way to continue the game in the absence of people to rescue. According to this type of analysis, with the rise of rescue organizations which publicize that alcoholism is a disease, alcoholics have been taught to play "Wooden Leg".[1] |
Generally celebs seem to be a very insincere and phony lot. Then again you would have to be to seek validation from millions of anonymous strangers.
